Very true Mike. In effect "Yes means Yes" would render body language meaningless. It would weaken our capacity to benefit from the exercise of our intuition.
I am particularly struck by your description of the 'Yes means yes' as reducing normal sexual intimacy to the level of a business contract. I'm 72 years old and have been married to the same person for 44 years. In all our years together, I cannot recall more than a handful of occasions when the word 'yes' passed between us in this context. Our communication was based almost enirely to observing the partners body language. It quickly becomes obvious if the partner is or is not feeling inclined toward more intimacy or doesn't want to start. Even in times when it was difficult to be sure we would resort to 'Are you enjoying this?' or 'Do you want me to ...?' which would almost always result in a non-verbal but very clear response through body language.
To reduce this understanding to the level of a business contract massively diminishes the inimate value of the making love.
Very true Mike. In effect "Yes means Yes" would render body language meaningless. It would weaken our capacity to benefit from the exercise of our intuition.
Great article, thank you.
I am particularly struck by your description of the 'Yes means yes' as reducing normal sexual intimacy to the level of a business contract. I'm 72 years old and have been married to the same person for 44 years. In all our years together, I cannot recall more than a handful of occasions when the word 'yes' passed between us in this context. Our communication was based almost enirely to observing the partners body language. It quickly becomes obvious if the partner is or is not feeling inclined toward more intimacy or doesn't want to start. Even in times when it was difficult to be sure we would resort to 'Are you enjoying this?' or 'Do you want me to ...?' which would almost always result in a non-verbal but very clear response through body language.
To reduce this understanding to the level of a business contract massively diminishes the inimate value of the making love.